Your loved one just heard three difficult words, “You have dementia.” Then, your head starts swirling with a million questions.
“Why did this happen to my dad?” “What could we have done to stop it?” “What should I say—or not say—to my loved one?” Suddenly, you are a caregiver. Now what?
While it’s going to be challenging for you, it’s far worse for the person with dementia. If the condition isn’t very advanced, your loved one may be fully aware—and totally distraught.
Six Ways to Find the Right Words to Say
- Get prepared
As your parent goes through the process of receiving a diagnosis, make sure to educate yourself and reflect on how you can best support him. - Make sure your loved one knows you have a plan to help
Reassure your loved one that there are many things you can do together to help him live his best possible life. - Tone of voice
Slow down, leave pauses between each sentence, speak simply and never raise your voice. Keep things conversational. Always be respectful. Always include your loved one in the conversation. - Say what you need to say… kindly
Don’t bombard your parent with questions. Cover one thought or idea at a time and give him time to respond. - Listen for the meaning behind the words
Feeling misunderstood is a very frustrating aspect of dementia. Become an active listener and provide encouragement. Give the person the time needed to express himself. - One more thing to touch on
Body language and physical contact are extremely important for all of us. When dealing with the grief that accompanies a dementia diagnosis, physical contact may be able to convey more than words ever could. A hug, the touch of a hand or simply sitting in the same room together can make it clear to your loved one that you will be there for him.
Call us if you need support caring for a loved one. Our trained caregivers can provide support to fit your schedule and provide you with peace of mind. We understand aging, and we can help your loved one age in a healthy manner. Caregivers at Home Care Assistance are available for daily and hourly respite care for your loved one to help you protect your health and focus on yourself.
Contact Certified Dementia Practitioner Amanda Butas, your Mesa client care manager, at (480) 699-4899 to see how our caregivers can help your loved one thrive. You also can visit us at our office next to Bed Bath and Beyond, on Power and McKellips roads, at 2031 N. Power Road, Suite 103.